The new year time. A time for goal setting. The idea is wonderful but most don’t last. So what is the key?
I am in love with the new. I am a change seeker. Mornings are my favorite time of day. Monday’s are my favorite day of the week. And the new year is the embodiment of how these things make me feel. Like I am on the cusp of some new, exciting adventure. It is filled with potential and possibility.How do we tap into this?
I have been thinking about this Jason Silva video about sunsets lately (I actually forced my cousin to watch it after he made fun of me for my hippy perspective). Because I think this sunset/sunrise thing is a good metaphor for why we look forward to the new year. Because it is:
“A moment in which we can witness the transformation. In ordinary waking states we cannot perceive the passing of the moment. It forces us to be more present. The moment becomes impregnated with a sense of importance With a sense of meaningfulness. It frames the moment and induces a transformative experience.” Jason Silva
I think this is why I have spent a lot of time longingly watching and chasing sunsets and sunrises this year. Here is my favorite one.
As midnight hits and we go from 2015 to 2016 we can future trip into the us we want to be in this transformative moment.
How do we get this moment to last though? How do we let it play out throughout the day, rather than just at sunrise and set? How do we take the journey to transformation?
Let us begin by goal setting.
What do you want in your life?
Seems like a simple little question right? But how many of us really know what we want? How many do the inside work? What are your desires? What sets your soul on fire? What makes you excited? What gets your heart racing? This is more than resolution/New Year work, this is lifelong legacy work. It is a practice like yoga or kettlebells or anything we wish to be good at.
I am a Danielle LaPorte fan. I also go back to some igolu work I did with my cousin Jacki. We talked often about living above the line, rather than below the line conditioned reactions. Make a circle. Inside the circle put what you want. On the outside, put what you don’t. What I loved when I talked with my group was the Danielle LaPorte approach: how do you want to feel? Create goals from this perspective. Okay so inside my circle I have that I want to be joyful. Well what brings me joy? Create and live from this answer.
This to me makes them more personal. Not cookie cutter, but personally designed by my own passions. We create goals to enrich our lives. It is not always about the achievement, or perfection. It is about adding more of that inside circle into our lives. Striving to improve it. To live more. To love harder. To bring more meaning. To feel more fulfilled. To have more adventure. To go for it. Even if we fall short. Or fail. Or if we are criticized. Go out there and live a big, joyful life. Sets goals that make you and your life better. I look at the tattoo on my arm: Our truest life is when we are in dreams awake. Live your dreams. Live your goals.
And so I will be vulnerable and share my own. 2016 looks so beautiful to me. I want to set goals on fire. How do I want to feel?
Joyful. Peaceful. Happy. Healthy. Inspired. Creative. Artistic. Free. Connected. Connected to community. Self sufficient. Strong. Flexible. Mindful.
Okay so what are some of my goals for 2016? The farmer’s market. Business growth and expansion. Find a collaboration partner. Projects like writing a cookbook. Making cooking videos. Teaching, oh yes I want to do that too. Teach cooking classes. Cook some fantastic healthy, nourishing meals at home for yours truly. Be the best baker I can be. Meet and connect with more people. Infuse more yoga and mindfulness into my life. Infuse the yoga with my kettlebell practice. Art. I’ve recently rediscovered my inner artist, so 2016 is filled with blank canvases, wood pallets, sketch books, windows and more. Another business venture and collaboration?Sell at the Covered Bridge Festival. Paint holiday windows around town. Contribute to the second coloring book. Hike. Get outside.Hike the 12 best places to hike in Indiana that Sarah posted on my timeline. Take pictures. Submit them to the Parks Department for their calendar. Family. Friends. Spend more quality time with them. Have my nephews over to paint. Take naps with Skyler. Hug more. Say I love you more. Laugh more. Smile often. Listen more. Make more friends. Be vulnerable.
So how do I attain these goals?
Do. Take action
I have read The Untethered Soul twice. Ultimately change comes by us making a decision and repeating it. If we want to quit smoking for instance, we have to stop bringing a lit cigarette up to our mouth. And then we have to repeatedly keep doing this. So we go from a smoker, to a non-smoker. See how simple on paper it is to change ourselves. To redefine ourselves.
I want to be an artist? I have to paint. I have to sketch.
If I want to write a cookbook, I have to sit down to write. I have to type.
If I want more yoga, I have to hit my mat.
To attain goals, we must first show-up. I think too of Gabby Bernstein now. That a big part of life is showing up. Showing up for the change. How often do we wait on a big moment? Think of that f sunset. It doesn’t happen all at once. Show up to your mat. Sit down to write. Get out your canvas. Show up in life. Show up to your goals and the changes you want to make.
Know how you want to feel. Know what you want. Create and set goals. Show up. Act. Allow space for them to be achieved.