Who am I to be happy?
Who are you not to be?
I have gotten back-lash in the past for being happy or positive. Or written off. Oh Brittany she’s a hippy. She talks about love and is always trying to put a positive spin on something. Going against the grain, can mean being categorized and pushed aside.
But we have created this society. A society where we accept depression and stress. Depression is the norm. We talk more about our problems and struggles than we do our joys. We hate our jobs. We butt heads in our relationships. And we just give up on them and let them disintegrate. How else could divorce rates be so high? It is easier to give up and not deal with something or someone than it is to truly feel something. We would rather drink and do drugs, or whatever vice we may have than feel pain. We avoid it. We cover it. We blame. We accept the suck in our lives. But it is not our circumstances or lives that suck, we do. We suck. We accept the negativity as a norm.
We will wallow in our pain. We love that. To complain. To find faults. We bring depression upon ourselves. Our limited scope of the world, of life beyond a current circumstance, limits us. It’s like looking out of a dusty, dark window. As Thoreau has said, it’s not what you look at, but what you see.
Life is perspective. How you view it. Choice.
I am not happy all the time, but I am a lot better at catching myself. When I find myself having negative thoughts. Feeling stress. Being judgmental. Lacking compassion. Feeling sorry for myself. I catch it. I rebuke it. I go back to gratitude. What I am thankful for. How blessed I am. I cannot be down, when I am so blessed. We have to be self-aware. Call ourselves out. Be willing to change in an instance. You can decide not to be depressed. Not to be suppressed. To say no temptations. Reach for joy, rather than allowing yourself to be pulled down. Continue reading “Who am I to be Happy?”
“The true joy and wonder of life can only be yours if you follow your own intuition aiming to achieve your bliss.”
― Steven Redhead, The Solution
Initially I was going to name this site something typical and dull. Something with a lot of B’s that went with Brittany, because I have tendency to do that. But then I wrote a post last year for my cousin Jacki on purpose. In my bio I gave up a little piece of my heart, saying my biggest dream, the one at my center, which I’d never really shared with anyone (aside from my mom). My big dream was a food bus, and it still is (this site is part of my first steps towards my dreams). Jacki responded right away with some positivity and some input: call it Bliss Delish. I admit I wasn’t convinced right away. But then when I realized working for my family so long, meant I was trying to be someone, I knew I needed to use my own creativity. I needed something of my own. No rules, but freedom to follow my own intuition. So when I began sharing my dreams, Bliss kept coming back to my mind and then one day it was decided, boom Bliss Delish is me Brittany! I’m a bigger time thinker/over-thinker. I put my whole heart and soul into what I write and do (if you don’t like the babble skip down to the recipes at the bottom). Lately I’ve had moments of irreproachable happiness. Why? There was no reason why. I was done defending my life and choices. I was done looking for a reason or excuse to be content with life. I merely was happy, period.
How do you live in a state of bliss then? I recently read Danielle LaPorte’s radical book: The Fire Starter Sessions (read it!). What I got from it was this. How do you want to feel in life? What makes you feel that way? Go after that! If it doesn’t work out big deal, go after a new venture. We always have the power to change. I personally want to feel happy. I want to feel powerful. I want to feel creative. What makes me feel that way? When I am struggling in life, there are certain things that center me. I feel most alive when hiking. Writing allows me to right the thoughts in my head, or simply to get them out so I can move on. Lastly cooking is a way for me to feel at peace. Especially cooking for others. Half the time I make food and never taste it, but I thoroughly enjoy the process of cooking. It is a way for me to express myself. My Continue reading “Spiced Apple Balsamic Cake”